Comments for Social (In)Queery https://socialinqueery.com Social Data for the Queer Revolution... Tue, 05 Jan 2016 19:37:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by stillme /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9481 Tue, 05 Jan 2016 19:37:36 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9481 I’m gay.Still trying to figure out why.Still in the closet,though. You know,it hurts to know that I CNT sit n watch a movie with my family n there’s gay activities going on and I can’t help but be totally silent and pretend DAT I’m not their kind.Why?
“everything bout u reeks of gayness”.My mum tells me.she’s totally homophobic.
why do we gay guys have to face such a cruel reality
I mean,if we were to choose our sexual orientation ,woold we prefer to be homosexual? No…absolutely no one would choose being homosexual n be disowned by the public.

Pain whels up in me that I CNT Cry any more.I hope i don’t die silently.I just want to be loved n appriciated 4 who I am.

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by alex /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9451 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 23:19:53 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9451 all i have to say is to live and let live. my sexuality is pretty bland to be honest. i don’t like girls or guys or anything because i can’t feel those kinds of things on most occasions. i don’t get “turned on” or “turned off” so i don’t consider myself to be straight, gay, pan, bi or any Other one of these bullshitty labels that we like to use so much. Why would homosexuality really bother you? honestly, 98% of the time you’ll be having sex in your life, you will be doing it the “wrong way”. do you wear condoms? do you only have sex to have kids? did you ever jerk off in your obviously premature lifespan? giving yourself the right to judge others that way…. is just so pathetic. i’m not even gay myself and id much rather hang out with gay people (in general). you are filled with such intense hatred for absolutely no reason. you weren’t born this way like i wasn’t born asexual. I have one final word for you sir. Bullshit.you should rub a bit of it on your skin. it’s a really nice moisturizer

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by Mason /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9439 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 21:39:20 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9439 Great post. Really just fantastic!

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by A Jones /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9428 Tue, 22 Dec 2015 07:46:24 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9428 I respectfully disagree with the concept of its a choice. While I do agree there may not be a specific gene that controls sexual orientation I think it’s like any preference you might have. I love pizza and I hate brussel sprouts. I don’t think there’s anything in my genetics that specifies that but it’s part of me and I can’t choose to either dislike pizza or like brussel sprouts. I think if you can ‘choose’ to be attracted to either side then you’re actually bisexual. And you’re right about cultural and experiential influence but attraction is not a choice. Even within the gender you’re drawn to.

I was dating a woman who was sweet and cared deeply about me and was a great person all around. But I couldn’t get myself attracted to her no matter how hard I tried. And I dated another woman who I was uncontrollably infatuated with but who wasn’t good for me at all. And it took me years to get over her. As far as I can tell very few people can choose who their attracted to.

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by Anonymous /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9415 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 15:57:55 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9415 Here is my real story. I’m 22 years old man, born to a devoted Christian family with an Asian culture. I live in a Muslim majority country where religious values are higly applied and homophobia is endorsed by the media.
I started to know that I am gay since I first learned about sex. I just knew that a man penis would have erection and plug into woman’s vagina. I found out later that since a child I always got erection when looking to a good looking man.
I was once in a depression and could not tell anyone about my orientation until I joined a Christian Camp when I was 13 that told me that I could change. I believed that my homosexuality were caused by my parents words that I am not a brave man. (It was true anyway that I am not a brave man) but maybe that thing hurt my feeling and made me gay, I thought. I did the reconciliation and everything. Since then I told my parents about my story and believed that I have changed.
I started to neglect my homosexual desire and try to date a girl. Yet several years after that I couldn’t hold my curiosity about sex and the first time I open porn it was a gay porn. I was really attracted to it.
Yet I still believed that it was a mistake, I blamed myself and try to stop that. When I got erection I forced myself to just imagine a girl and masturbate. I thought it is better than masturbating through imagining men.
Years went through nothing changed. I was in a close relationship with a girl though I never officially dating her because I didn’t love her. I like her as my friend not more. But I still believe that I am not born gay.
When I went abroad I tried to go to a normal club and met a girl there, she dance with me hug me and put her leg between my legs. But i felt nothing! I am still attracted to men instead. With a man I could feel love.
I became so desperate to found out that I have never truely changed.
Now what is the best explanation to explain the cause of my homosexuality? I am not dating a guy because I am a Christian. But Honestly I am so disappointed.
When I was a child I thought it was easier to get married. I always thought that I will marry a beautiful woman and have children. But I didn’t know about sexual part in the marriage. Now it seems really hard for me with my condition.
Is there a good explanation that you can give me? Since you look understand about gay thing. Honestly by now I am really sarcastic with people who against gay born that way. Especially with some comments that even animals don’t do that. And I found out that there are gay animals too.
I never wanted to be a gay especially in my situation. My family is Asian and it would be such a shame to have a gay son.
Help me explain this thing!

Thank you so much.

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by ana /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9408 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 14:09:04 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9408 Publish this text anywhere , use it as teaching material in schools!

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by AbsolutelyVeryTrue /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9366 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 22:24:37 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9366 Well these days there are certainly much more Gay women than ever before, that is for sure. Especially the ones that Experiment in college with each other.

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by Marshall /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9350 Sat, 05 Dec 2015 17:27:33 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9350 You say that the sexuality can change… but I am not sure…
This would be good because I think I am homosexual and I don’t accept it (I know, I must accept, but I’d like to be bisexual, this would be perfect!)…
Of course it seems that it can be impossible to change the sexual orientation “at will”… what do you think?

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by Critical Thinking, Asses, and Masses | Neighborhood Neuro /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9301 Sun, 22 Nov 2015 23:23:44 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9301 […] I decide someone being gay is a choice, I can find evidence and logical arguments that support this claim. I can cite data and critiques, and seem really well […]

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Comment on No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why by Kimmy Gold /2013/03/18/no-one-is-born-gay-or-straight-here-are-5-reasons-why/#comment-9286 Mon, 16 Nov 2015 08:10:09 +0000 http://socialinqueery.com/?p=316#comment-9286 It’s not about if you were born queer or not. Its about how we are letting labels (all Labels, not just the ones relating to sexuality) define a large part of our human experience and has been damaging humanity for centuries, causing judgement, self-hate, hate, sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, attracting issues, political issues, all the fucking issue in the the world (literally). we all know who made these labels. WAKE UP! Love who you are and love others the same. its your life not theirs. we’ve been fucked by this system for too long. somebody do something, and stop getting mind-fucked. please! don’t care if I sound crazy, in my option this is fact.

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